DEAR ABBY: Woman shamefully targets man with disabilities

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DEAR ABBY: My son “Ethan” is a visually impaired grownup with disabilities. He’s articulate, right down to earth and joyful to be round. He’s a home-owner in a pleasant space of city.

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A girl we met by means of the Nextdoor app purchased an costly winter coat from us very low-cost. She and her husband know Ethan is in Special Olympics and awaiting a information canine. She raised chickens, and when Ethan talked about the brand new egg hatcher we purchased for him, she requested if she may borrow it. I advised her she may, after our one chick was grown sufficient.

I’ve requested repeatedly for her to return it. She stated she would, and even requested for our handle. I supplied her with the knowledge. She has since moved, however she’s nonetheless on the town. When I requested her extra lately to please return it, she posted Ethan’s photograph from the Nextdoor app with a quote, “Dangerous and Unstable Person.” What can I do to defend him? Legally, I feel one thing must be accomplished for his popularity now. — PERPLEXED MOM IN COLORADO

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DEAR MOM: There is sufficient discrimination towards folks with disabilities with out this terrible girl contributing to it. Consult an lawyer to debate her behaviour and learn the way to defend your son from her uncalled-for assault. To label your son as harmful and unstable is a slander meant to wreck his popularity.

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DEAR ABBY: I’ve been in a long-distance relationship for 11 years. I like “Roger.” He’s a hardworking, first rate particular person. He says he loves me too. We bought engaged three years in the past and set a date for this yr.

Well, Roger has referred to as it off, however he nonetheless desires to be collectively. He put our marriage ceremony on maintain after we had a battle. He advised me he can’t marry me if I act like that. Abby, he’s exaggerating the battle. He’s my greatest pal, and he’s at all times there for me if I want him. He lives two hours away. After I had a flood, he got here to assist. He couldn’t even see too effectively. (He bought shingles two days earlier than my flood.) Regardless of how sick he was, he drove all that manner to assist me.

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Roger has his personal building firm. He has reworked my kitchen and loo and accomplished many different issues for me. This is the second time he has postponed our marriage ceremony. I can’t think about life with out him. Should I keep with him? Should we break up? I’d actually hate to begin courting once more. Do you assume he’ll marry me? — ON HOLD IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR ON HOLD: You acknowledged that Roger lives two hours away. Have you pushed these two hours to be with him? If you haven’t, it might be time you probably did as a result of he could have one other romantic relationship occurring nearer to residence that will be sophisticated to get out of.

From your description, he looks as if a caring particular person, however there needs to be a purpose why he refuses to make a dedication. Until you get some trustworthy solutions from him, a wedding isn’t more likely to occur. If he’s unattached, some premarital counselling could assist to calm his fears.

— Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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