You know, during my time volunteering at the farmers’ market, I’ve noticed something interesting. The women who shine the brightest aren’t always the loudest. They’re the ones who lend a hand to vendors when packing up or remember your name long after your last chat. They have a unique way of making everyone around them feel valued.
This made me reflect on what truly makes someone a decent person. After years in the finance world and now mentoring young women, I’ve recognized some key traits that distinguish genuine decency from mere niceness.
She Practices Active Listening
How often do we share something, only to have someone jump in with a similar story? While we may think we’re bonding, truly decent women excel at listening. Studies in psychology show that reflective listening builds trust and connections. A decent woman will ask follow-up questions and remember details. This can make a huge difference.
I learned this while mentoring a young woman facing challenges at work. Instead of sharing my experiences, I asked her what she needed, and it turned out she just wanted validation for her feelings.
She Sets Strong Boundaries
Setting boundaries is not about being difficult. Dr. Dana Gionta, a clinical psychologist, emphasizes that healthy boundaries show self-respect. A decent woman communicates her limits clearly and respects others’ boundaries as well. This kind of emotional maturity is essential for personal well-being.
She Celebrates Other Women’s Successes
Research shows that celebrating others enhances our own well-being. A decent woman takes joy in another’s achievements without jealousy. I’ve witnessed how a competitive work environment can harm relationships, but now I always applaud other women’s wins, no matter how small.
She Owns Her Mistakes
Some people turn mistakes into a drama, but a decent woman simply admits, “I was wrong.” Psychological studies suggest that accountability makes individuals appear more trustworthy and competent. It’s about showing maturity and moving on.
She Shows Everyday Integrity
Character is built through consistent, small actions. A decent woman returns extra change at the store or keeps confidences. These seemingly minor acts create a sense of trustworthiness, even if they go unnoticed.
She Treats Everyone with Respect
Want to see someone’s true nature? Observe how they treat service workers. Research shows our interactions with those who can do nothing for us reveal our core values. A decent woman treats everyone with kindness, even during rough patches.
She Supports Without Fixing
This can be tough, especially for those who lean toward problem-solving. A decent woman knows when to ask if someone wants advice or just needs to vent. Often, simply being present is what someone needs most.
She Practices Self-Compassion
Dr. Kristin Neff’s research highlights that self-compassion leads to better emotional resilience. A decent woman speaks kindly to herself, recognizing imperfection without harsh judgment. It’s about embracing “good enough” rather than perfection.
She Chooses Kindness
Choosing kindness often trumps being right. In finance, I learned that relationships matter more than winning every argument. Research shows that prioritizing kindness leads to happier relationships. A decent woman knows when to let small errors slide.
Final Thoughts
These habits might not make headlines, but they foster genuine connection and respect. The remarkable women I admire focus on being decent without seeking recognition. They quietly engage in small acts of goodness that add up.
If these qualities resonate with you, that’s wonderful. If they seem challenging, that’s okay too. We’re all a work in progress. Just thinking about what it means to be decent is already a step in the right direction.
In fact, a recent survey found that 78% of people believe practicing kindness can significantly enhance workplace culture. So, embracing decency not only improves our personal lives but also creates better environments for everyone.
For more on this topic, check out Psychology Today’s insights on kindness. Let’s cultivate a culture of decency together!
