My grandmother raised four kids on a teacher’s salary in suburban Sacramento. She never complained or asked for help. For her, life was about following a certain path, and she believed it was the only one.
During Thanksgiving, she asked me why I don’t want kids. Her curiosity surprised me because, in her world, choosing not to have children was unimaginable. This conversation made me think about the unspoken rules that shaped her generation—rules that younger people often see as outdated.
Here are several core beliefs that have shifted over time.
1. Stick with One Job for Life
Boomers were expected to find a job and stick with it for decades. Loyalty was valued, and job-hopping was frowned upon. But after witnessing lay-offs and crashing pension systems, younger generations shifted their view. Now, changing jobs every couple of years is common for growth and better pay, seen not as disloyalty but smart strategy.
2. Keep Mental Health Issues Private
Mental health wasn’t openly discussed. People often suffered in silence, viewing emotional struggles as personal weaknesses. But studies show that talking about mental health can lead to better outcomes. Younger generations dress mental health concerns as essential self-care, sharing their experiences on social media, which helps reduce stigma.
3. Respect Authority Unquestioningly
In the past, authority figures were automatically respected. Questioning them was rare. Today, the internet allows easy access to information, leading many young people to challenge authority. They prioritize earning respect over giving it freely. This change sparks tension, as some see it as disrespectful while others view it as healthy skepticism.
4. Adhere to a Strict Timeline for Life
Traditionally, life followed a timeline: finish school, get a job, marry, then have kids. Deviating from this path raised eyebrows. Now, people are embracing diverse timelines. Many choose to marry later, if at all, or opt for no children. Personal choice is now a priority over societal expectations.
5. Keep Family Affairs Private
“Family business” stayed within the family. Today, younger generations openly discuss family issues, often to protect their mental well-being instead of upholding family reputation. The rise of social media has made it easier for people to speak out and redefine loyalty based on their needs.
6. Follow a Linear Path to Success
Success used to mean following a straight line—from education to career to retirement. But with today’s unpredictable job market, many embrace non-linear paths. They switch careers, take breaks, or learn new skills whenever they want. This adaptability is now considered vital.
7. Dress Up for Work
Professional attire was once non-negotiable. Nowadays, younger generations prioritize comfort and authenticity over rigid dress codes. Casual attire is more accepted, especially in tech roles and remote work—seen as a reflection of workplace culture rather than a lack of seriousness.
8. Keep Personal Life Separate from Work
Work and personal life used to be distinct. Sharing personal struggles was frowned upon. However, many young people believe that blurring these lines brings them closer and fosters supportive work environments. They advocate for balance between personal and professional lives.
These values didn’t arise out of thin air. They were shaped by specific economic, social, and cultural conditions. As those conditions changed, so did the rules. Younger generations are not rejecting these ideas out of spite. Instead, they are adapting to an evolving world that demands flexibility and openness.
Understanding this shift is essential for bridging the gap between generations. Our paths may differ, but the desire for happiness and fulfillment remains the same.
