My friend Marcus recently explained why he couldn’t join us for dinner. “Clementine has been anxious since the construction next door,” he said, showing us a video of him reading to her. “I need to be home for bedtime, or she won’t settle.”
Clementine is Marcus’s tabby cat. In the video, she curled up on his chest, purring as he read her favorite story about a runaway bunny.
Watching Marcus—who’s a senior software engineer and marathon runner—talk about his cat’s needs was eye-opening. It highlighted how people who treat their pets like family often approach relationships with similar care and responsibility.
Here are some traits I’ve noticed in those who see their pets as their children:
Emotional Awareness
When someone refers to their dog as their “baby,” it often means they take emotional responsibility for their pet’s well-being. This awareness spills over into their human relationships too. They notice when a coworker is off or remember personal details about friends’ lives. Marcus, for instance, can sense when Clementine is anxious, a skill that helps him lead his team with empathy.Rituals of Care
Pet parents often develop special routines—like morning songs or bedtime stories—that create a sense of security and connection. This love for rituals often extends to their other relationships, like organizing regular calls with family or maintaining cherished traditions.Non-Verbal Communication
Living with a pet teaches us to read body language. Pet parents become fluent in their animals’ signals, which helps them connect with people who communicate differently. They often show patience and understanding, recognizing that meaningful communication doesn’t always require words.Unconditional Love
Pets give us love without judgment. This unconditional acceptance, called “unconditional positive regard,” can influence how pet parents interact with others. Research shows that these relationships can foster secure attachments, allowing people to appreciate others for who they truly are, imperfections and all.Playfulness
Pet parents are often unafraid to be silly. They engage in playful antics with their pets and extend that joy to human interactions, enjoying karaoke or silly games without worrying about looking silly.Embracing Dependency
Pets rely on their owners for care, and those who accept this role often approach human relationships similarly. They understand that needing help isn’t a weakness and are willing to show up for friends and family without keeping score.Finding Meaning in Routine
Daily tasks like feeding or cleaning can feel mundane, yet pet parents often find purpose in these rituals. This mindset helps them recognize that love and care require consistent attention in all areas of life—not just with pets.Accepting Grief
Pet parents know they will outlive their furry companions. Yet, they choose to form bonds fully, embracing joy despite the inevitable pain of loss. This attitude often carries over into how they handle human relationships, showing deep care even when life is uncertain.
Not everyone who sees their pet as a child exemplifies all these traits, but many do reflect a deeper understanding of love and connection. In a world where traditional family structures are changing and loneliness is common, these pet parents redefine what family means through daily acts of care.
So, the next time someone mentions picking up their “daughter” from doggy daycare, recognize it for what it is—a celebration of love and connection that transcends traditional definitions.
Pet love might stretch our definitions of family, but it also enriches our lives in unexpected ways.