Are you in midlife and wondering, “What’s next?” You’re not alone. Many people seek personal growth during this stage of life. The transition from one phase to another can feel overwhelming, whether it’s becoming an empty-nester, changing careers, or dealing with loss. It’s a time for reflection and self-discovery.
Chip Conley, founder of the Modern Elder Academy, describes midlife as a “chrysalis”—a crucial transition between what was and what will be. It’s about letting go and creating something new.
Conley’s academy offers various courses that help individuals navigate these significant changes. At this stage, many people yearn for transformation. Unlike college graduates, there’s no ceremony or clear path marking the transition into midlife. Making changes in our lives requires effort and community support. “You need practices and tools,” he says.
To aid in this exploration, the academy offers a pathfinder quiz to identify your midlife archetype. Are you a seeker craving adventure? A lone wolf who values independence but seeks connection? Or perhaps an impact-maker eager to make a difference?
Betsy Benoit, a 62-year-old from Portland, Oregon, took this quiz during a major life change. “It was shockingly accurate,” she said, recognizing her dual roles as a seeker and a lone wolf. After losing her job and going through a divorce, she took a course called Navigating Transitions. “It helped me plunge back into life and friendships,” she shared.
This concept of midlife transformation has gained traction, especially post-pandemic. Many adults are now embracing “transformational travel,” where they invest time and money in personal growth. As the aging population grows, universities are also adapting to accommodate older students. Programs like the Nexel Collaborative and others at universities such as Stanford and the University of Minnesota are leading this trend.
Marc Freedman, founder of the organization Co-Generate, emphasizes the need for a shift in how society views midlife. He’s noted that many individuals seek more than just leisure activities like golf or pickleball. Structured midlife transition programs can foster a strong sense of community and shared learning.
Research suggests that having a sense of purpose can enhance longevity. David Rehkopf, a social epidemiologist at Stanford, points out that purpose contributes significantly to life satisfaction, which is essential for health and longevity.
For those seeking to craft their own path, Laura Walker, a participant in the Yale Experienced Leaders Initiative, suggests starting with self-reflection. “What can only I do?” she asks. “Feed your curiosity,” she advises, recommending reading, exploring new interests, and connecting with like-minded individuals through local groups or online communities.
As we look ahead, it’s clear that midlife offers unique opportunities that past generations may not have had. Empowering policies could even allow more people to take a “gap year” for self-discovery. Whether through formal education or personal initiative, midlife offers a chance for renewal and growth that can lead to deeper connections and fulfillment.
In the end, many, like Betsy Benoit, find a supportive community to share their journeys. “It’s given me a community,” she reflects, acknowledging the invaluable support she’s received. Finding your path in midlife isn’t just about preparing for the years ahead; it’s about embracing who you are now and what you can become.
