Have you ever felt drained after spending time with someone? It’s surprising how some people can lift your spirits while others bring you down. I learned this lesson when I left my finance job and started focusing on writing. Suddenly, my phone was silent. No more invites to happy hours or lunch dates with old colleagues. At first, it hurt. These were friends I’d shared many moments with. But as time passed, I realized that many of those relationships relied on convenience rather than genuine connection.
The ones who truly cared? They remained in my life. They helped me understand Oprah’s advice to surround ourselves with those who uplift us. This isn’t just nice advice—it’s a helpful guide for building lasting relationships that contribute positively to our lives.
The Hidden Cost of Toxic Relationships
I had a friend who was constantly competitive. Every achievement of mine was met with her topping it—whether it was a promotion or a running event. Over time, these interactions left me feeling smaller. Studies have shown that bad relationships can increase stress and weaken our immune systems, proving we can even harm our health by clinging to such ties.
Recognizing toxic relationships is just the start. The real challenge lies in finding the courage to make changes.
Why We Hold On
Spotting Your Lifters
Making Space for Positivity
It doesn’t mean you have to cut people off completely. Start with small boundaries. Instead of meeting a toxic friend weekly, try scaling back to monthly check-ins. This approach can open up your life for healthier connections.
The Art of Authentic Connection
Building Your Support Ecosystem
