DEAR ABBY: I’m 57 and have never been married. I’ve had plenty of relationships—some great, some not so much. After facing heartbreak, I’m ready to meet someone new.
I recently broke up with “Bill,” a guy I met at a resort casino three years ago. At first, things were wonderful, but then they soured. Since we frequented the same hangouts, ending it was tricky. I tried to break things off, but Bill would keep coming back. I felt guilty hurting him, so I often let him return. Finally, four months ago, I ended it for good after he was rude to me. A neighbor later said Bill was stalking me, which Bill denies, even though I have proof.
Yet, I’m still drawn to him. He’s the first man to ever say he loves me, and I worry that no one else will feel that way about me. I know his behavior isn’t normal, but we keep running into each other, adding to my confusion. I can’t afford therapy right now, so I’m hoping for some advice to help me move on. — HEART RULING THE HEAD
DEAR HEART: If you keep running into Bill, consider that it might be because he’s stalking you. It may be time to change your routine. While he may have expressed love for you, others can do the same if you open your heart to new relationships. You mentioned not being able to afford therapy, but remember that many communities offer free or low-cost counseling through local mental health services. Reach out to your county or nearby universities for support.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been talking online to a famous pro wrestler who has marital issues. He’s been flirtatious through Google Chat, and while I want to be there for him as a friend, he’s hinted that his wife is “getting too old.” He mentioned that their joint bank account is frozen and even asked me for an Apple card. I said no and suggested he ask family instead because I need my money for my siblings.
This situation feels overwhelming, and I’m unsure how to handle it. Any advice? — UNCERTAIN IN IDAHO
DEAR UNCERTAIN: Be careful communicating with people online. A well-known wrestler should have enough resources and shouldn’t have to ask for money from you. Your life doesn’t have to spiral out of control, but it might if you allow this to continue. Take charge by blocking him and moving on. He needs to solve his own problems, not drag you down with him.
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