My mom recorded the moment I found out I got into U.Va. It was December 10, a few days after I started a 10-day quarantine in my chilly basement due to COVID. Despite the cold, my excitement was palpable in the video.
I applied to U.Va. through Early Decision without visiting. Instead, I dug deep into online research, looking at photos and dreaming of what life would be like there. To me, U.Va. was more than just a school; it was trick-or-treating on the Lawn, soaking in sun-soaked days, and enjoying dinners downtown. I was thrilled, eager to start my journey at a top public university and UNESCO World Heritage Site.
However, my experience at U.Va. has been more complex than I imagined. The academic rigor is intense, and while there are countless clubs, I often found myself feeling lost in the crowd. The sense of loneliness at times can be deafening. This has led me to question which version of the University I truly know—the one dedicated to embracing its history and diversity, or the one bogged down by debates and challenges.
Throughout my college years, I’ve grappled with my feelings about U.Va. I have loved my time here, which motivated me to join The Cavalier Daily as an opinion writer. Just like a sports commentator offers a deeper look into a game, I wanted to bring new insights about the University. My aim has been to provide clear thoughts on complex issues, though I’ve found it’s often easier to point out problems than to solve them. Sometimes, it feels as if accepting the school’s dualities is the only way forward.
On campus, I started feeling like I was moving in a trance, rushing from place to place. To regroup, I began walking across Grounds more mindfully, listening for the heart of U.Va. I remind myself that I am in the same beautiful space I once admired from afar. I take pride in what the University represents and hope for its future. It’s a hope that resonates with many students who once Googled pictures of the Lawn.
This perspective is just a starting point. It won’t eliminate the real challenges facing U.Va., but it’s a necessary step toward understanding this complex place.
Reflecting on this journey, I find it compelling to note that U.Va.’s challenges mirror broader societal issues. For example, research shows that many college students feel overwhelmed and disconnected, particularly during their transitional years. In a 2021 survey, nearly 60% of college students reported feeling isolated. This data highlights a growing need for community and connection in college settings.
While my story is personal, it echoes the experiences of many students. My hope is that by sharing these reflections, others might find comfort in knowing they’re not alone in their feelings.
Dan Freed was an opinion columnist and editor at The Cavalier Daily, dedicating his time to exploring the multifaceted experience of attending U.Va.