Many older adults often feel invisible. It’s a real issue that stems from how society views age. Ageism is prevalent; older people often find themselves ignored or dismissed. But there’s another layer to this issue that many miss: internalized ageism. This is when older individuals start believing the negative stereotypes about aging themselves. They may not even realize it’s happening.
What does internalized ageism look like? It can come out in thoughts like:
- “I’m too old to try something new.”
- “You can’t expect me to keep up at my age.”
- “That’s for younger people.”
- “Oh, I’m just getting old.”
These comments may seem harmless or even humorous. But they signal a deeper belief that age limits capabilities. A study by Yale psychologist Becca Levy reveals a stark reality: people with positive beliefs about aging live, on average, 7.5 years longer than those who accept negative stereotypes about themselves. This finding highlights the profound impact of self-perception on health.
Levy’s research suggests that these beliefs shape choices and how we present ourselves to the world. When someone frequently jokes about their age or downplays their contributions, they may unwittingly encourage others to perceive them as less relevant. This cycle creates a feedback loop where feeling invisible leads to more feelings of invisibility.
Interestingly, a report from the JAMA Network Open found that 81.2% of adults aged 50 to 80 held some form of internalized ageism. This belief system was linked to poorer health, even more so than ageism from others. The conclusion is clear: what we say to ourselves matters greatly.
Our current generation of older adults is particularly susceptible. Growing up in a culture that values youth, they’ve absorbed the message that aging signifies decline. Ageist jokes are often accepted socially, reinforcing the idea that older people don’t have much to contribute anymore. By the time someone reaches 65, they may have internalized decades of this narrative.
Breaking this habit isn’t impossible. It starts with awareness. Over a week, notice how often you express self-doubt tied to your age. Ask yourself whether those beliefs are true or simply societal narratives you’ve accepted. Research shows that older adults possess valuable experience and insights—traits that should not be diminished.
When interacting with older individuals, avoid confirming age-based self-deprecation. Instead, focus on their ideas and contributions. Engagement can provide the visibility that so many seek.
Ultimately, while feeling invisible after 65 is a reality for many, it’s essential to understand that this perception can be interrupted. Challenging self-limiting beliefs and recognizing their societal origins can make a big difference. It’s about refusing to shrink back before questioning if those limitations are genuinely valid. Often, they are merely stories we’ve heard repeatedly, not truths. So let’s change the narrative together.
For more insights, you can check out the study by Yale researchers on the effects of ageism on health [here](https://journalistsresource.org/home/the-impact-of-ageism-on-health-and-health-care-a-research-roundup-and-explainer/).
